//Guilty Plea in Rehtaeh Parsons Case

Guilty Plea in Rehtaeh Parsons Case

This morning I sat in a Halifax courtroom and listened as one of the young men involved with my daughter’s case changed his plea to guilty. He is guilty of producing child pornography. He is the person who clicked the button on that cellphone, and as simply as that, he ended her life.

It’s a bittersweet moment. I’m sure some will hope our family can find some peace but the truth is that plea opens the door to some serious questions.

Why did the RCMP originally tell us the production of this image wasn’t a police matter when it was? Why did they do nothing to protect a victim of child pornography for almost two years when they knew this image was out there, who had it, and who was spreading it. Why did they arrest no one when it would have made a difference to do so? Why did the tell us it was not a police matter but rather a “community issue” when that was obviously not the case?

Why did Cole Harbour High knowingly allow child pornography to be openly distributed throughout the school and do nothing about it? This went on for months. Is that the response we want from school officials when it comes to a crime like this?

Most importantly, why would any of us think it would be different if it happened again? What measures have been taken? Are the same people in the same positions and are they going to show the same indifference to the next victim?

The children portrayed in child pornography are first victimized when they are photographed. They are further victimized each and every time that photo is accessed and shared. Stopping it as soon as possible should be a top priority. In Rehtaeh’s case it wasn’t. That can never be allowed to happen again and the people who allowed it to happen must be held accountable for it.

I’m not expecting much to come from this young man’s sentencing. He did nothing when it could have mattered. Rehtaeh would have forgiven him had he only told her he was sorry. He knew what he did. He knew what she was going through and he just didn’t care.

It’s a powerful yet sad testament if you think about it. He did the same thing the school and the police did when it would have made a difference – nothing. She may very well be here with me now if only the crimes committed against her were treated as such. If the case before the courts today was so strong it resulted in a guilty plea than who made the decision not to proceed the first time? Why did they do that? Are they still there, showing the same indifference to other victims?

I’m relieved we didn’t have to sit through a trial but I am also left with a deep sense of sadness. This cost me Rehtaeh. I lost my only child.

She deserved better.


I am grateful to Sgt. Andrew Matthews of the Halifax Police and Crown Prosecutor Alex Smith. I know they were handed a mess to clean up under a great deal of public outrage. I know in my heart they did their best.

Sentencing for the male in this case is set for November 13th at 11:00.

The trial for the second male begins November 24th.

2016-10-21T21:43:12+00:00September 22nd, 2014|Categories: Rehtaeh Parsons|Tags: , , , , |139 Comments


  1. Tamara November 6, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    Dear Mr. Canning,

    Your words are wisdom and I applaud your courage to continue to speak about this outrage on your daughter’s behalf. Where a victim has the strength to survive the original violence, they are ‘piled on’ by a system that does not recognize the violence then subsequent mobbing of the victim that takes place – especially where the victim tried to speak out and gain justice and was denied. It is the lack of justice that is very destructive to ability to recover. Our legal system has somehow become grossly unjust in this, and many related matters. Unless you are prepared to hire a lawyer and bear the burden of that cost and trauma, nobody will act.

    I am fighting similar battles on the other side of the country – trying to out the failure of the systems that are in place for average people to make complaints under law so that they respond with the appropriate investigations and actions. Rehtaeh is in my thoughts often – as a lovely young woman who deserved so much better and was failed very badly by the very systems whose job it was to protect and help her.

  2. Daniel October 4, 2014 at 4:13 pm

    I have a few questions and comments which I wanted to post earlier but emotions were running too high as shown in the many posts.

    The photo is what the younger generations would describe as sexting is now officially recognized as child porn, but I fear that the 2 charged will get nothing more than a slap on the wrist. I am hoping that this 1st conviction is part of a strategy for laying many more charges on many more people and also of some attempt by the law enforcement agencies to collect and destroy all the copies of the photo; but I doubt this is realistic.

    The description of the photo leads me to believe that the boys would also have detailed verbally what they were doing in great detail which they would have repeated over and over. This is sexual harassment. It is the type of crime where the criminals would want witnesses that they also need to fill their sick desires to brag / harass / bully. Isn’t there anyone, student or school staff, that has come forward prepared to testify? Isn’t there anyone who has recorded the harassment? Is this not also more evidence that legal consent could not possibly have existed at the moment as the law is explained in this site? The sexual harassment should be easily proven yet I am at a loss to understand why this crime is barely mentioned anywhere. Some would describe this as bullying which definitely falls under the responsibility of the schools when done on their property. The school’s claim that they cannot get involved because it is a police matter is unacceptable. By the way, I never believed in the public claims of the school’s representative that they never knew of the photo.

    Why are crimes involving psychological harm dismissed so easily? Why is sentencing in these types of crime so light? Why is it that you can be charged with murder if you trigger a heart attack or stroke during an armed robbery but it is not considered if you are the cause of suicide from other felonies?

    So many different crimes have been committed by so many. Without formal acknowledgment some will continue to delude themselves into believing they have done nothing wrong and this would pave the way for reoccurrence, for another case like Rehtaeh’s. Removing the deniability of wrongdoing has to be a high priority by the government in any new legislation.

    I do hope that the family can find peace and the answers they so desperately need.

    Strength and courage to you all.

    Rehtaeh is her name !

  3. River October 2, 2014 at 4:34 am

    This essay has relevance here: “Every patriarchal religion has a forgiveness clause”…and it’s primarily directed to women.


  4. Judi September 30, 2014 at 8:28 am

    May god bless you all as you struggle through this horrific journey ,

  5. jann September 29, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    its a good thing they caught this person, in my community they should be catching this one sick bastard that sexually harassed and assaulted me really badly but the 3 others verbally 4 years ago but these couple officer didn’t believe me and they had the evidence. couple months later this one officer threaten me and i went into depression and anxiety like Rehtaeh did. im lucky to be a survivor of 4 years of hell, it disgusted me what happen to this poor girl. i am here for anyone who has been through the same thing me and rehtaeh did, its a sick world and i wish people would stop these things. i really hope stuff like this gets taking serious for everyone and this sick fat pig in my community gets caught because hes not safe around anyone.

  6. geekdivaherself September 29, 2014 at 5:36 pm

    Rehtaeh Parsons *IS* your name, dear heart, and let me thank you for something, please. Thank you for holding on as long as you possibly could. Thank you for trying so hard to overcome the sheer shock of the pain forced upon you by those who forced themselves on you. Thank you for finding moments of joy by putting off suicide for yet another day, even while cruel words and pictures tore at you like a tornado made of barbed wire. Thanks for being brave enough to reconnect with those who believed in you, even when your very school ground became treacherous footing.

    Thank you for doing what you could. It was…beautiful of you, to hold on like that when you couldn’t find your way back. Noble, even. And the strong memories you’ve left behind you, down to each step you took despite all your burdens, they weave a path with the steps of others towards the hope of a more beautiful future. They will not perish from this Earth. You and yours will always be part of the pulse of the land, the breath of our culture, and the hope for every child to cry out, “I’m home!” and have that safe return be assured.


    The idea to thank someone for holding on through suicidal thoughts is one I’ve used with a friend of mine, too. Saying suicide is a selfish act is, well, a selfish act and prideful, as well as unhelpful. When I thanked my friend for holding on, he almost cried, and he hugged me more often that day than he’s ever done before or since, but was unable to speak. He is still alive today, a few years after his lowest point, and rarely mentions suicide. But he does, rarely, because I’m someone he can trust with those feelings. Once triggered for whatever reasons, suicidal feelings never get “solved” or “cured,” just endured.

    This idea, which has been so helpful, comes from reading “A SLENDER THREAD: Rediscovering Hope at the Heart of Crisis” by Diane Ackerman. http://www.dianeackerman.com/nonfiction-books-by-diane-ackerman states of this book:

    An intimate and compassionate record of Diane’s service as a counselor on a suicide and crisis hotline, where she turns her attention to the troubled lives of those suffering from what she calls the “small demonology of our age” — anxiety, depression, and all the trials, uncertainties, and conflicts of love.

    Lastly, let’s train all people (because a much smaller percentage of women rape, but it still happens) to “not be that guy.” I know some people tried to highjack that campaign, but I think that didn’t tarnish the original’s good point and, from what I’ve read, the campaign did help in 2011. I don’t know about later. See: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/british-columbia/dont-be-that-guy-ad-campaign-cuts-vancouver-sex-assaults-by-10-per-cent-in-2011/article1359241/

    We should all learn about asking for and giving consent. If someone feels the need to be “on the prowl” or “hunt down” a sex partner with the giggling cheers of his friends, that should be viewed as pathetic. No one should need casual sex so much that they can’t first have a 2-minute conversation to make sure they’re not misreading signals or taking advantage of someone’s impaired state. And, I can’t believe I have to spell this out, ANY symptom of illness or distress, much less vomiting, is a sign to, I dunno, maybe pause and ask, “Are you all right? Should we stop? Do you need help?”

    My sartalics are still on, here, but… Maybe we need to make a rhyme or something, like, “Learn the diff’ ‘tween yea and nay and you’ll have sex another day–the law won’t come shut you away!”

    And now, with sartalics font off, I donate this line of doggerel to the public domain (even sing it in a stadium if you like and I won’t come after you!) and, as long as I’m doing that, I donate the rest of this post to Glen Canning and Leah Parsons (I hope those are the right names for Rehtaeh’s parents). If there’s *anything* I wrote here that you find re-useable, I would be honored and grateful to be a small part of your work.

    I hope something here is helpful,
    C. in Seattle

    Ps. I have the constant form of stillsdisease.org and so I will have to recover from typing this, but *I wrote it anyway* because that’s how important it was *to me* to do so. In a very, very different way, I have some empathy with what it is like to be trapped in your own body and your own head, with no way out and people judging you (in my case due to the invisibility of my disability), but let me tell you, I would NOT trade my situation for hers. I’m truly impressed she held on as long as she did. Some people look down on me but at least they are not vicious about it, as if my very being challenges their entire framework of thought to the point they are driven to constantly come up with new methods of being vicious.

  7. Valerie September 26, 2014 at 1:01 pm

    I am a level headed, calm person, but I am struggling with this. I am furious that the entire country isn’t as outraged as I feel. She got drunk, as many teenagers do. She was sick and likely wasn’t even truly aware she had been raped till she saw the pictures. How dare anyone of you treat this like those young men did nothing wrong and deserve forgiveness. She is dead. They are off scott free. Humiliated beyond repair in life, and still humiliated in death, because NO ONE BELIEVED HER. Not one authority besides her parents DID THEIR JOBS. I hope to god that when these guys find women stupid enough to love them, that they don’t have children, because karma is staring them straight into their disgusting, souless, disease filled faces. I hope those men never find peace. I hope they remember her face & that it plagues them every god damn day for the rest of their miserable lives. Oh, and to their parents: shame on you. You failed. 110% failed. Are you proud of the people you raised? Honestly, some people shouldn’t breed and this is fucking why.

    • River October 2, 2014 at 5:05 am

      She didn’t GET drunk, she was assaulted first with alcohol. THEY got her drunk, with the purpose of rape in mind.

      This is endemic, there is scarcely a woman that this hasn’t happened to. Women are smaller, have a different biochemistry, and can be drunk much faster than men. But as someone commented she was not just drunk, she was suffering alcohol poisoning. She might have died of that.

      Men get women drunk to rape them.

      Men get women drunk.

  8. faye coulstring September 25, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Well lots has been said ……..bottom line the authorities did not do their JOBS……POLICE ,SCHOOLBOARD.

    Not that what I am to say will ever stop the pain, because it will not.Just to let you know the AUTHORITIES do have a BOSS the ATTORNEY GENERAL Of N.S .

    Civil charger can be laid against thoes involven or as it were not involved in doing their JOBS .

    This will not help your pain, I understand that,but it may help others by having their childern safe and that all crime is important .

    Prayers with you always

  9. Overseas September 24, 2014 at 6:52 pm

    I am not a parent, but am of an age where I would have adult kids if I had chosen to do so. However, as an observer of teenagers of today, I truly believe that (with very few exceptions) kids/young adults are not brought up to respect either themselves or others – at home, at school, or around and about. They are not shown that any action will automatically have a reaction (or consequence). And they are never taught to ‘do unto others what you would have done to you’. All of these cross every political, cultural, religious boundary – so we should stand up for these and promote these to kids in their growing years, so that they approach the difficult teenage/young adult years with a deep conviction in how to behave … you never know, we might even like them!! I recently heard a friend comment about her 16/17 year old daughter that she is her parent and will continue parenting until said daughter is finished education and starting to work and then she looks forward to being her friend. Too many parents forget that they need to PARENT before being a friend to their kids.
    Incidentally, my understanding of Rape – if a person is unable to fully comprehend what is happening and a sexual act of any type is carried out, then it is assault/rape depending on how far things go.

  10. april September 24, 2014 at 11:42 am

    Mind your manners. This page is dedicated to Rehtaeh and is not the appropriate place to throw around your insensitive opinion.

  11. George Haeh September 24, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Teens do dumb things like boozing up and getting into inappropriate sex. The new idiocy is taking dumb pictures, then sending them to “friends” spreading them all over the internet where they take on a life of their own.

    Had the police and school been up to the job, made prompt arrests and put out that anybody found with that photo on anything would be charged for possession of child pornography, the whole sad process could have been nipped in the bud.

    I don’t think much of those charged and will not feel sorry if their eventual sentences contain a deterrent component. But they are just dumb kids whose actions were magnified beyond imagination when those in authority fell down in their job.

    • gid tanner October 19, 2014 at 10:19 pm

      NO! They were not just dumb kids. They were/are RAPISTS. stop minimizing what these predatory beasts did and then compounded. They are rapists and sadists and belong in prison.

  12. John September 23, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss, I wish there was something I could say or do to ease your pain. Rehtaeh was a beautiful girl. I have two daughters myself and I can’t even begin to imagine your pain. I pray that you and her mom find peace someday. I hope that people learn from this tradgity…. I pray that this tradgity may educate an inform people….and maybe….. Just maybe it will help people think…. Use their heads….. Stop doing such foolish things…. Maybe it will save someone else.

    God bless you.

  13. Rehtaeh: A father’s questions September 23, 2014 at 6:34 pm

    […] By Glen Canning […]

  14. Sheri September 23, 2014 at 12:34 pm

    Hi Glen, my name is Sheri and I heard you speak last year at Blissdom. You are never far from my thoughts and I know this has opened up more questions that deserve to be answered. I am thankful that you do not need to sit through the trial and I hope you receive the answers to your questions. I know that it won’t bring Retaeh back, but your strength and resolve is possibly sparing another family the same nightmare, if those who have the power are listening, accepting their part and working so this doesn’t happen again.

  15. Loretta September 23, 2014 at 10:53 am

    First of all, I have to say how sad I am for you and your family. Rethaeh was such a beautiful girl. I recently moved to your area so my children attend the same schools as yours. My teenage daughter and I have spoken about Rethaeh and I can only hope because of our talks, my daughter will find the strength to speak out when she knows someone is being victimized by others. I also pray she will know to refrain from hurting others no matter what. I hope people will learn from your tragedy. I realize academic education should be the major focus at school, but I think the schools should spend more time reviewing the current curriculum to add a social skills component so children can learn/discuss what they may or may not learn at home. I think it should start in elementary school. Times are changing and so should we. My younger daughter has experienced some problems at school with her peers that has gone beyond “sticks and stones”. I can only imagine what these kids will be like when they get older and have access to technology. I am afraid for my children but I want you to know that I will find the strength to say what is uncomfortable and to ask what is painful so I can support my children as you did yours. I hope the system changes to hold those to blame accountable for their actions or lack thereof. Although I did not know her, I will honour Rethaeh’s memory by advocating on her behalf as a mother who believes she was wronged. I will do my best to educate my daughters and their friends.

  16. Leah September 23, 2014 at 7:55 am

    RETHAEH IS HER NAME. Please dont engage or respond to these trolls. They are taking the attention away from where it needs to be. Honour Retaeh, celebrate that beautiful angel. Do not give credence to those that would contribute to the dehumanization of such a precious life. They are exactly like the perpetrators of this crime. We all know what these people are. They do however need to be reported imediately. By not reporting them your giving them permission to behave the way they do, and isn’t that why we have the apathetic legal system that we do.

  17. Megan September 23, 2014 at 7:31 am

    I am very sorry for your loss.

  18. Guilty Plea in Rehtaeh Parsons Case | Liblogs September 23, 2014 at 6:45 am

    […] news, which as far as I can tell Canadas’s major news organizations have yet to mention , is here. As to the controversy around Anonymous’ efforts to keep this case open and whether it […]

  19. Denise September 23, 2014 at 6:42 am

    Glen, I am so sorry for everything you have gone through. My 16 year old son was the victim of a shooting on New Year’s Eve a couple of years ago at the bus terminal by the bridge in Dartmouth. He was shot in the chest and head at point blank range because the shooter wanted his “dollar store earring”. (His ball cap saved his life – you might have read about it in the newspaper). My son was lucky enough to survive but it has left him emotionally and physically scarred for life. Like your family we had to fight for full justice to be served and dealt with backlash from extended family members about why we wanted to extent the trial into a dangerous offender trial as opposed to just taking a plea bargain from day one with very little jail time. My son’s shooter ended up with a 20 year sentence for what he did to my son and he too apologized for his actions at the VERY END before sentencing. Perhaps he thought he would get a shorter sentence by doing so, however an apology as such means very little at such a late date after 2 years of trials causing severe anxiety, sleepless nights, and fear of retaliation from his gang members on our part. However, having said all that, I can see that our persistence, like yours for justice to be served, eventually paid off. Let us hope that such cases as these start setting a presidence that will deter such horrendous bullying behavior. I truly believe that the media coverage you have received will make a difference. I applaud your strength and determination to continue your fight however I know how emotionally exhausting it can be. Please remember to take care of yourself as well. I will pray for you and your family. My faith is what helped me through my ordeal . . .

  20. Melanie September 23, 2014 at 12:21 am

    Thank you. I am sorry for your loss, and I am glad that one of the perpetrators did the right thing by changing his plea to guilty. I do wonder if he’s going to be compelled to testify against the other young man.

    • Glen Canning September 23, 2014 at 4:56 am

      From my understanding that will be the case.

  21. Tony September 22, 2014 at 11:15 pm

    Wow a lot of trolls but I’m not surprised. After all there was almost as much support for the criminals as there was for the victim. As soon as alcohol was mentioned it suddenly wasn’t a rape in most people’s eyes. I as a man with testosterone flowing through me would never take advantage of anyone in her situation(and yes I’ve been in a position to do so many times). If she can’t say yes then walk away. It’s what needs to be taught to EVERYONE. In my opinion this is a case of rape and production/distribution of child porn.
    As a father of 2 girls I will do my best to protect them and steer them in the right direction, however we were all teens once, we all know weddidn’t always make the best decisions. Sure I drank underage, does that mean I deserved to be assaulted? And let’s face it, many of you did too. Where were her parents? At home trusting their child as ourd did. Maybe she broke that trust by drinking however, that doesn’t justify what these boys did. Where were their parents? How were they raised if they thought it was ok to rape? Who’s asking that? Don’t give me that boys will be boys crap, our gender doesn’t give us a free pass. I’d never rape anyone just because I have a penis and think it was ok. I was raised better than that. Maybe I’m unique but god I hope not.
    The response by both the RCMP and the school disgusts me. If the cops told me it was a community issue, then good luck charging me for taking the law into my own hands. Thing is these lazy donut munchers are the ones who should be handling it. I’ve sadly come to realize how useless cops are as I get older. I work closely with them and to be honest it’s actually made me dislike them even more. After hearing how this case was handled I wasn’t shocked, just sickened. There should be more than just the “boys” being punished for this, the police and school board also need to be held accountable and charges or at the very least dismissal without benefits should follow.
    Sorry for the ramblings, but mostly I’m so so sorry for your loss. Words cannot describe how much my heart aches for you all. I hope some day you find peace. Stay stong.
    Yours truly, and not anonymously,

  22. Kathy M September 22, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    I was in a relationship that ended. My ex decided to walk out and then made my life a living hell. He stalked me at home and work, made threats to me. He still didn’t abide by the law even when I put a peace bond against him. He then served 2 stints in jail for not listening. The stalking continued and he asked a guy to kill me. I was a mother to his 5 children ages 4 to 16. The guy asked to kill me knew me and I used to play cards with his mother., He asked my oldest son what he thought of his mother and his answer led the guy to back off. Thankfully this gentleman was clean from drugs and alcohol at the time or I might not be here today. I lost weight and spent 5 admissions in hosp from Sept 99 to Nov 2000. He left us in March 1999.
    FOR ALL THE PEOPLE SAYING SHE SHOULD HAVE MOVED…. It’s not fair. I chose to move with my 5 kids in Sept 2001. I could no longer live in fear. I stayed awake all night to protect my children and I slept while they were at school and daycare. I moved from Nova Scotia to BC. I finally knew I WAS SAFE, my children were safe and I could finally sleep at night but not without a high cost. I knew not a soul there. I had no support for me or my children, one with special needs. I had to move away from my parents, all the friends the kids had, new school, new home, new EVERYTHING. Moved from a town of about 1200 to a place that had 40,000+ ppl. It was not one bit fair because he drove us away… WHY WHY WHY does the victim always have to be the one to move…LAWS should protect us. I’m still angry at the fact that I had to lose 4 yrs of my fathers life who died less than 2 yrs after I moved back to NS in 05 because of my ex husband of 15 yrs. I love and appreciate the friends I finally made after I was there about a year. I never went out except when I had to, I never socialized with ppl in the complex til the following year. It really annoys me the amount of ppl that are saying she should have moved…. My kids suffered because of that move BUT I did what I had to do to protect my family BUT I am not happy about the move I had to make. I am happy they have adjusted and have become wonderful adults now ages 19 to 29

    Glen keep up the fight – Don’t ever give up. The hell with the ppl who are ignorant or rude in the comments. Rehtaeh is an angel. You are keeping her light alive. My thoughts and prayers are with you always. There are many people who support you. Keep your head up high.. Big Hugs.

    • Glen Canning September 23, 2014 at 4:57 am

      Thanks Kathy

  23. Fred Bushor September 22, 2014 at 9:40 pm

    Keep up the good fight sir. It’s shameful how justice was distorted by those bastards we thought knew better.

  24. Caroline L. September 22, 2014 at 8:59 pm

    Rehtaeh was very fortunate to have a father who is keeping this eternal light shining for her in hopes that her time on this earth will have made a difference in the lives of so many . . .and that the lessons learned her by the perpetrators, society, the protectors, the systems in place to govern our society and all parents can honor her memory by teaching our sons and daughters right from wrong.

    Honor Rhetaeh by taking control once again, break away from a society that seems immune and no longer seems to care about anyone or anything, teach and practice what is acceptable and what is right or wrong and teach and learn respect for others, try to be mindful of the human traits necessary to be a part of a society that does not live in fear and the sense of injustice of feeling that in the end “nobody cares”. In Rehtaeh’s memory take charge and be accountable for ourselves and our children. We may not be able to control others actions but we can start at home in an effort to contribute to a better and safer society. R.I.P. Rehtaeh. . .and Dad. . .keep your crusade going as it has and will make a difference. I commend Catherine (above) who has in light of what happened to Rhetaeh has spoken to her son and to quote “I have a 16 year old son and because of Rehtaeh’s story we have candid discussions about sexual consent, gang rape, videotaping, nudes, friendship & caring, respect for girls, standing up for those who find themselves in situations where they can’t.” All parents should follow her example. Rhetaeh’s life was not in vain. She is and will continue to make a difference. Peace be with you Dad.

  25. Ed September 22, 2014 at 7:10 pm

    There are many people who will always hold their heads in shame for their lack of support when needed. And rightfully so. Many comments reflect a lot of detailed thoughts etc that sometimes garner the spotlight. Let’s not lose focus of the true spotlight, Rehtaeh. She died. Our accepting and unchallenging culture HAS to change. To Rehtaehs Mom and Dad: I am a father of a 13 year old angel, and I sincerely shed tears for you because I can only try to imagine what I might feel if this were my reality. You have so so so many who support and wish they could feel your pain in the hopes of lightening your load. Remember that, in spite of some of the idiots who posted on here.

  26. Rita September 22, 2014 at 7:09 pm

    unfortunately this young woman ended her own life. the photograph may have led to situations causing this young woman to end her life however in the end this young woman ended her own life. we need to look more closely at mental health issues and see if we can prevent these situations in the future. parents please talk to your children more!

  27. Heather Berrigan September 22, 2014 at 6:33 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.A parents worse nightmare.And to have to fight these years for justice,shows your strenght and your love.Nothing the courts will do to punish these animals will be enough,for nothing was done in the first place,God Bless You and those who love her.

  28. G Burke September 22, 2014 at 6:09 pm

    “I agree with Taylor, that it really is not fair to say he ended her life by sharing a photo. This all should have been dealt with right away. If she was taken away after this incident by family to start a new life away from all this horror, she also may be with us today.”

    Wow. So you think it’s possible to just “move away” from the pain and suffering that Rehtaeh was subjected to? You think it’s possible to “start a new life”, just pick up and move away and voila! All your pain, all your suffering, poof! Just gone? New postal code, new person? Unbelievable!

    “Not fair” is what happened to Rehtaeh and her family. “Not fair” is your comment. Not fair, not sane, just sick and sickening.

    You’re a part of the problems out there in our world that add up to young people like Rehtaeh being victimized and re-victimized again and again until all hope is lost.

    Shame on you. Seek help.

  29. Marcy September 22, 2014 at 5:44 pm

    The police could have done more, 100% agree. Way more. But to blame someone’s suicide on another person is just as low as the acts that triggered the mental illness required to take ones life. Instead of focusing on her being such a victim and no one doing anything about it, why not focus on overcoming the victimization. The only person who can do that is the individual. It’s an extremely hard thing to do, especially when your family around you is immersing you in the victim role, you need family support to help overcome the “I’m a victim.”

    How would this father feel if these words, his blog, triggered depression in someone who could never forgive themselves as it is and ends up in the same result – another life gone because of the taunting of an angry father?

    • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 7:50 pm

      I guess it all depends if you are the type of person who blames others for your own actions or not. Some people go through life blaming others for everything that happens to them instead of taking control of their own life, thoughts and feelings. This may sound harsh but I agree with you. I believe that people are 100% in control of their lives and responsible for the choices they make. Anyone that has been a victim and has gone through the struggle to come on top knows that the only way to get out of that turmoil is to no longer be a victim. To regain control of your life, your feelings and you actions. I as many required therapy, meditation and a great many self help books, but I refused to let someone’s action and bad behaviour overcome my entire life. That was MY choice.

    • gid tanner October 19, 2014 at 10:31 pm

      Your remarks are pompous and self involved. Not real big on empathy here when what is important to you is to pose as a “thinker”. These young men raped Retaeh and then tortured her psychologically. They deserve long prison sentences. There is not “taunting from an angry father ” here. There is a demand for justice. Why do you sympathize with these rapists?

    • Daniel October 25, 2014 at 11:41 am

      Marcy, I respectfully disagree.
      I am not from the area nor am I an insider, but I will speak purely as someone who knows too well what it is like to be harassed. Being pushed into suicide is indeed possible. Whether the final exit is used at the time or years later the psychological harm that so many would like to dismiss is real and intense. There comes a time when the desire to end the pain can become overwhelming.
      In Rae’s case, some would want to blame the 2 who were charged with child porn, others would blame all 4 of the boys, but in reality I believe there were so many more who contributed to her death.

      I blame all who distributed the photo. I blame the 4 boys, all those who harassed or shamed, all the sheep who would simply follow the crowd, those who would actually take pleasure in hurting and destroying a human being, the 2 faced individuals who would claim to help but would also harm, all the witnesses who would claim it is not their responsibility, the school staff, the law enforcement agencies; and also IWK.

      Yes, people can be pushed to suicide and for those who would do the ‘pushing’ it is the perfect murder because criminal charges would never be laid; the crime would remain unrecognized.

      Strength and courage to the family.

      Rehtaeh is her name.

      • Daniel October 27, 2014 at 7:57 pm

        Upon rereading what I wrote I see that this needs some clarification; apologies if there was any confusion.
        Guilt and remorse is all about intent. Those who would harm either by their actions or inaction should feel guilt; and I would say to them that confession is good for the soul. Anyone can make mistakes but it takes maturity to make amends.

        To those who would attempt to educate the community by making the facts known and keeping up the pressure on the law enforcement agencies I would say go for it. No one should feel remorse for wanting and trying to do the right thing. Rae’s story and others like it needs to be told, if there is any hope of reducing the chances of new cases like this.

        Strength and courage to the family.

        Rehtaeh is her name !

  30. Chris September 22, 2014 at 5:36 pm

    She deserved better. Keep up the good fight, Glen.

  31. BH September 22, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    Thanks for your input your right when you say their actions had an influence on the ultimate choice Rehtaeh made.
    I want to be clear not one part of me agrees with what those boys did not one. I also do not agree with a lot of what happened obviously.
    I often think to myself my own daughter has probably been in situations throughout the years where something like this could have happened and in saying that I mean young girls and boys now a days put themselves in harms way more times then not. They have a distorted view of being able to handle all that comes their way whether it be in fighting with other kids or drinking and doing drugs it’s as if no matter how many times someone is hurt or killed they think it won’t happen to them. I believe that the girls in today’s society are taking higher risks and the boys as well.
    That night those boys should never have done what they did.
    I feel some of young kids behaviour around sex comes from the way sex and group sex is perceived in the world. With technology comes a whole world of pornography that is accessible to kids. This has to be having an affect on kids today.
    I remember being a young teen staying out til all hours drinking too much and putting myself in harms way, fortunately I was not subject to this kind of situation but I do know people who were.
    I’m not saying what she did or any choice she made is worthy of what happened what I’m saying is I think all of our children boys and girls need to be taught to make better choices!
    I for one believe that every single person was failed in this situation and in some form I failed everyone as well because I’m a member of this community and a citizen of this country and a mother of a child which means I have to be held responsible in some form for allowing this situation to even be possible. We need to move for change!
    I will probably always be conflicted in this story I will never forget it or the individuals involved but I will do whatever I can to affect change!
    Sincere thoughts for all!
    RIP Rehtaeh

  32. Andrea September 22, 2014 at 4:55 pm

    Are the names of the perpetrators published anywhere at all? Why is it that they do not have to endure the experience of public shame as what they forced onto their victim.

  33. Dustin September 22, 2014 at 4:23 pm

    Almost as unbelievable as this father’s strength is the audacity of some of these commenters.
    All the best for you and your family sir I hope you can find some closure and that some day we don’t have to live in a world where horrific tragedies like this happen.
    These are not men these are pathetic cowards preying on young women and this sort of thing needs to stop and need to be met with swift action and harsh punishments. How anyone here can see any other side to this is a disturbing insight into our society.
    Again, I am truly sorry for your loss this should have never been allowed to get this far.

  34. anon September 22, 2014 at 4:17 pm

    Wasn’t there a publication ban, and wouldn’t this site be going against a judge’s order?

  35. Chelsea September 22, 2014 at 3:56 pm

    So terribly sad. I absolutely believe that had it not been for the photo..she would still be alive. You can blame depression, blame anxiety or whatever. The fact is..she was raped and on top of that was humiliated for it (something that was NOT her fault) by having this photo distributed to her entire school. Im sure if anyone had a photo taken of what they consider the worst thing to date that had happened to them in their life, and had it passed around loke a big joke, it would be enough to throw anyone over the edge. The thing that scares me with this case is that the only time people started to get the ball rolling was when it was brought public. How many other “Rethaeh’s” are out there right now? In any case, my heart bleeds for your loss. For what its worth, she will ALWAYS be remembered.

  36. Jylene September 22, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    RIP Rehteah, may she have justice in death. Blessings to you and your family, I admire your strength.

  37. Anonymous September 22, 2014 at 2:30 pm

    i feel for the family of rehteah parson, and what had happened to her shouldn’t have went as far as it did. But my question is, what was she doing out at a party with alcohol and boys at her age? Where were the parents? Where were her friends? I believe there’s more to the story, in which we will never know the truth!

    • Leah Parsons September 22, 2014 at 9:23 pm

      Anonymous….Rehtaeh was a teenager who was going to a friends home for a sleepover. We didnt permit her to go to a party. is it a party? She went to a home with her friend that she was having a sleep over with to another home where two brothers lived. Later two males stopped over to say hello. At some point alcohol was introduced so now the 6 teens were drinking> Not sure how that scenario is so out of the norm to comprehend…

    • KS September 27, 2014 at 3:58 pm

      Many teens go to parties and believe it or not they may consume alcohol. Most boys have the sense NOT TO RAPE them. Her “friend” ended up leaving her there.

  38. Concerned citizen September 22, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    My understanding is that the guilty plea was to the child pornography charge which resulted from the individual taking the picutre and pressing send. To my knowledge there was no finding of guilt to a charge of rape nor any plea to rape. Our heart’s go out to the families involved in this tragedy but let’s keep in mind that until this case brought this issue to the forefront many of our young people were likely guilty of similar acts (sending photos on their phones). It is unfortunate that this happened and that this young lady chose to end her life. But to say that she ended it because of a rape, without facts of such, is simply inflammatory and not serving any purpose.

    I hope these verdicts bring some closure to these families.

    • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 3:13 pm

      Agreed! We are missing the big picture here.

    • Peter September 22, 2014 at 5:37 pm

      No, Concerned citizen. Many of our young people were not likely guilty of similar acts. This young man witnessed a sexual assault. He took a pornographic picture of an unconsenting minor. He distributed that image. This might happen far too frequently, but please, let’s not try to normalize such behaviour.

      • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 7:39 pm

        Yes he did, however he was a minor himself as well. I am sure being underage himself he didn’t think that he was distributing child porn. Do you have any idea how many young girls take pictures of themselves, send it to boys and then it is distributed everywhere? Watch Missrepresentation, it is surprising how often this type of behaviour happens. I bet you most of them don’t even realize it is wrong. The authorities didn’t even acknowledge it as wrong behaviour until afterward. This situation is different I agree as she didn’t take the picture and so it should have never been distributed in the first place. I am not saying we are normalizing this behaviour, I am saying we need to acknowledge that it is happening widely and not turn a blind eye to the fact. This needs to be addressed.

        • Peter September 22, 2014 at 9:08 pm

          But you are normalizing it. If you think this has any connection at all with young people knowingly and willingly sharing photos of themselves you are turning a blind eye to what the issue is here. Sticking just to the subject of the photograph, you are trying to explain his violation of a young woman’s privacy without her permission in terms of the “normal” (if problematic) behaviour of young people taking explicit photos of themselves. The issue is consent and whatever it was that led him to think that he could take and distribute that picture without it.

          • tmocnne October 1, 2014 at 1:14 pm

            Ok, I get your point, it is not normal. However it is happening much to frequently. Therefore, what is the problem that is contributing to this re-occurrence? The fact that it is happening often tells me that it is more than just 1 person’s bad judgement call.

    • Colleen September 22, 2014 at 6:36 pm

      the judge said it was rape by taking her picture and putting it out there was the same as raping her

  39. BH September 22, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    I first want to say I myself am the mother of a young girl the same age. I will not sit here and say that I understand your pain nor would I ever want to. My heart aches for you and your family.
    I’m so conflicted over this story….my brain says what would I do in your shoes and how would I feel about all aspects. Well I would for one be very sad and very angry.
    The part that frustrates me are the laws as they are not clear. The definition of rape needs to be changed and forgive me if I’m wrong but I thought all boys involved were found to have not raped your daughter under the definition of rape? And please know I’m not trying to be ignorant just trying to understand.
    I feel so conflicted over all the facts. Nothing makes taking a picture and sending it ok but I also believe the child pornography laws need some adjusting in order to be clear on what is considered “child pornography” I am a victim of sexual assault on a child so I am all for stronger laws when it comes to that I just am unsure if this fits or maybe I just don’t understand it. Is this a charge because they didn’t have another one? Again not being ignorant or trying to be insensitive I am just trying to figure it out.
    I believe that there are no winners in this, you lost a child who had been through an extremely disgusting un humane trauma that is unacceptable and that is a shame and individuals do need to be held accountable on some level.
    I do feel the defendants lives are forever changes as well as I feel (without) knowing all the facts that possible there are a lot of people out to ruin their lives. How are we doing anything positive in your daughters name by not teaching and just hating? All the individuals in this situation were children and all made horrible choices that have lifelong consequence some more then others. I believe that if I were you I’d probably want the worst for them as well.
    But looking from the outside in I feel a lot of opportunity to take responsibility as parents and a community in how we raise our boys and our girls is being lost. This will happen again if we don’t look at that. The police the school and the gov need to take a look at what we can do as a whole to make change in order to avoid this ever again.
    I pray everyone finds some form of lesson out of this.
    Let’s start by speaking to our children fighting for new laws and changing old ones as well as affecting and demanding change within our mental health system.
    Forgive me if anything came across the wrong way as that is not my intent. I hope in some way today helps you and your family but I’m sure it gave very little to your peace.

    • Darlene September 22, 2014 at 2:09 pm

      BH I agree with almost everything you said…… Except about people out to ruin the defendants lives. They did that them selves when the did the unspeakable act to Rehtaeh. They were at an age where they knew the difference between right and wrong. It was by their choices and actions that led to the events that occurred.

      I think that the best way to do anything positive in his daughters name is to teach our sons to treat women with respect. Actually we need to teach our children to treat all people with respect and let them know that there are consequences if you don’t.

      We need to set new laws and change old ones but more importantly we need to learn how to become human again. I am not sure what happened to the world we live in but we need to make that one of the first steps. It starts with parents and community.

    • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 3:12 pm

      I agree. My post earlier was in no way to excuse their actions or as disrespect but I think the real question we need to look at and demand answers is exactly what Glen initially posted. Nobody did a thing about it. Not school officials, not the police. Therefore this is what this boy and others are being taught. That it is ok, that we will only slap you on ht wrist…maybe. The system that should be protecting us, should have protected her and didn’t is the real offender here. They should be charged as well!

    • Lindsay Dianne September 23, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      Only one of these children is dead. Only one of them was shamed, ignored and publicly humiliated. Only one has been said to have brought it on herself.

  40. Denise nickerson September 22, 2014 at 1:38 pm

    Rest in Peace Rehteah

  41. Denise September 22, 2014 at 1:38 pm

    Rest in Peace Rehteah

  42. Darlene September 22, 2014 at 1:18 pm

    I just want to say that you speaking out for your daughter is a wonderful thing! My heart goes out to you and your family. I know that it is hard everyday but if her story can change how crimes like this are handled you should be proud that you don’t sit back and not say anything. What happened to your daughter should never be forgotten and everyone should thank you for keeping in front of people. If enough people stopped to think what their actions can do to others there would be a lot less hurt in this world.

  43. Albert Wesker September 22, 2014 at 12:03 pm

    Taylor I, should be able to give his opinion openly and honestly.
    I don’t even know the details regarding this case, but when you put information in the public domain and allow public comment.
    You have to accept that not everybody is going to agree with you.

    Not come to ridiculous conclusions such as the commenter must be one of the Guilty parties peers.
    sounding like a lynch mob in here.

    • MJ September 22, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      And this is what I hear….blahblahblablah. Coming from yet another man.. Not a lynch mob. To quote you, “when you put information in the public domain and allow public comment. You have to accept that not everybody is going to agree with you.”

      Am I not allowed to do so as well? And since you do not know the details, perhaps you ought to educate yourself on them. And think like a parent….if you were fortunate enough to be one.

    • MJ September 22, 2014 at 12:37 pm

      And not knowing the details Mr. Wesker, how do you feel about theyatelazarus asking how he might find the pornographic picture of a now deceased teen, on her own father’s bog? Again, do some research.

    • Sandi September 22, 2014 at 12:43 pm

      Mr. Wesker, my parents taught me something important when I was very young. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.

    • Bob LeDrew September 22, 2014 at 1:52 pm

      Mr. Wesker, just as Taylor I has a right to his or her opinion, so do those responding to him or her. Personally, I hope the person just convicted gets the maximum allowable sentence under Canadian law. What happened was an obscenity.

    • Ed September 22, 2014 at 6:55 pm

      Excuse me Mr Wesker. I’m sure you must have been given idiot of the year award. Self admission dictates you don’t know the details of the case, however do you realize the subject of focus here is the lost life of a teenage girl and not a disagreement about fracking? People like you really should go back to the hole you crawled out of.

    • River October 2, 2014 at 4:47 am

      You think you recognize a lynch mob, though apparently, not rape. Post the IP numbers Mr. Canning, let us all make official complaints. Why do they do this? Because they get away with it, and they are SHOCKED when they don’t, they hold on and make excuses and blame the injured and the abused, hardly comprehending that they aren’t getting away with it, that “boys will be boys” didn’t come through.

      They aren’t “trolls” who are ineffectual morons trying to divert social media threads; No these commenters defending the rapist(s), because the other young men are rapists too, in my opinion, and murderers because that’s what they are, accessory to murder is a murderer by once removed, are rapists at heart, and will do this again, and may have already and are owners of the culture that kills women and girls, with impunity.

      The police are members of this culture too. Shocked and disbelieving, that they are being called on this. Didn’t they do what their culture expected of them? What their culture upholds: that any woman or girl involved in a sexual act is asking to be raped and murdered and the men involved to get some kind of hero badge. That’s what the photographer here was after, and got: the praise and admiration of his community and culture.

      No. More.

  44. Fo-Chan September 22, 2014 at 11:51 am

    Though I agree with you and the court to 100% that those pictures should be treated (and simply are) child pornogrophy, I’m not as sure about the rape charges.
    I mean, not only Retheah was drunk; the boys were drunk too. Keep that in mind. You can’t say Retheah raped the boys so you can’t say it the other way around either.
    Would be quite of a sick double standard if the court decides this should be considered rape.
    My condolences for the loss of your doughter. Kind regards, B. Fo-Chan

    • Lindsay Dianne September 23, 2014 at 1:48 pm

      Rehteah didn’t give the camera a thumbs up, and the boys weren’t vomiting out a window.
      She. Was. A. Victim. Period.
      There is no other way to spin it.

  45. theyatelazarus September 22, 2014 at 11:45 am

    Where can I find this picture?


    NetName: ROGERS-CAB-99
    OrgName: Rogers Cable Communications Inc.
    Address: One Mount Pleasant
    City: Toronto
    StateProv: ON
    PostalCode: M4Y-2Y5
    Country: CA

    • Glen Canning September 22, 2014 at 11:53 am

      Contact the Halifax Police Department. Let them know you want help accessing child porn and they will set you straight.

      • Dianna September 22, 2014 at 12:20 pm

        Did he just ask for the picture?? OMG!!

      • MJ September 22, 2014 at 12:41 pm

        Mr. Canning, is it worth reporting this jackass? Or is this just a case of some loser trolling the net because they don’t get outdoors and live with their Mamma?

        • Emme September 23, 2014 at 8:39 pm

          I am in tears reading this, knowing that you are dealing with scourge like this creep wanting the photo, to those like Taylor and Anonomous who continue to put blame on Rehtaeh. Glenn I wish this wasn’t the world we live in. To say I am sorry is not enough. Know that I have been there every step of the way in support for both you and Leah. I will never stop being another voice for Rehtaeh’s. She will never be forgotten and an ignorant word about her ordeal and her death will not go uncontested in my presence. Until my death. I promise you.

          I wish I could do more.

    • Corinne September 22, 2014 at 12:34 pm

      Wow.. You are really one sick puppy… Trying to access child porn? Maybe the RCMP should be checking into you… Better yet go check yourself into a mental health facility ASAP. It’s assholes like you that need to go to jail

    • MJ September 22, 2014 at 12:39 pm

      Another troll. He/She needs some serious psychiatric help. And to get a life.

    • Marg September 22, 2014 at 5:54 pm

      You are nothing more than a troll looking for some much needed attention.

  46. MJ September 22, 2014 at 11:41 am

    Taylor I – Sometimes. To make something horrendous and draw it in a straight line, a pornorgraphic picture taken and spread of a dear girl leading to her death, RATHER then repeating the gory details. Continuously. Is the most powerful way to make a point and express the emotions of the victims. Do ya really think that her father literally means a picture ended her life. And that’s it? Shake your head and think boy. Better yet, please don’t argue with the father of a girl who was victimized repeatedly by almost every system in place that should have been protecting her. The father who now has no child. When you have matured, had a family of your own, and God forbid, anything happen to one of your babies, THEN perhaps have an intelligent and informed , or sympathetic post. Your opinion clearly demonstrates that you are probably the same age as the criminals. So one word for you then leave this alone. Troll.

    • Mike Slayter September 22, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      MJ…Bravo and kudos to you. You have succinctly hit the nail on the head. There is no place for ‘marginalization’ of any measure . And I am a Dad…and horrified at it all. My heart goes out to Rehtaeh’s mom and dad and family and friends..

  47. Lea Anne September 22, 2014 at 11:37 am

    Your words are true and powerful. Sending you all the love and support I can via social media and this forum as a parent.
    I hope the next trial ends in the same manner.

  48. Lissa Renaud September 22, 2014 at 11:09 am

    What blows my mind is the comment here by Taylor I, really, a life was lost due to the circumstances involving the person charged who has now plead guilty. This parent lost their child and you spew such nonsense? God forbid should anything ever happen to someone you love and then to have to read insensitive comments such as yours. This family has been victimized over and over from the beginning and to now by you with such a comment! Ignorance must really be bliss. To the family of Rehtaeh, I am so sorry for what your daughter had to endure and what you are still enduring on a daily basis. I am glad I am not a child growing up in today’s world. I have a son, and so far life has been somewhat easy for him and I hope it stays that way. Life is hard enough for kids with pressures and social media adding to it. I am glad I grew up in a much simpler time!

    • MJ September 22, 2014 at 11:46 am

      Taylor I is most likely a peer of the @#$&+=*s who committed the crimes. Therefore a troll. Hope Glen knows this. Taylor is a child and expresses himself with that wonderful insensitive, uninformed, immature, and dare I say, male….point of view.

  49. Tiffany September 22, 2014 at 10:41 am

    My heart goes out to you and your family. When I hear about what happened to Rehteah, my first thought is outrage but followed closely behind that, is fear. I have three daughters and just as you said, what has been done? What has changed? Why didn’t anyone who could have prevented this do something, anything, and why haven’t they had to answer for their indifference? Because Rehtaeh paid for it. A precious beautiful girl suffered because of it. This case so often reminds me of a quote..
    “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
    My thoughts and prayers are with Rehtaeh and her family, and I truly hope that more is done, that people are held accountable not only for their actions, but their inactions.

  50. Taylor I September 22, 2014 at 10:40 am

    I really don’t think it’s fair to say by sharing a photo “he ended her life” – absolutely what he did was wrong on so many levels and it should never have happened but I feel like you should take into consideration the mitigating factors in Rehtaeh’s life, such as anger issues, psychological issues, unstable environment etc. Justice has been served and I hope it brings you some sort of peace now but attributing her death to a photo being shared with the public is inaccurate.

    • Glen Canning September 22, 2014 at 11:01 am

      Justice will never be served. She died.

      I know what lead to her death and I know if that image had not been taken I would still have my daughter. Keep in mind what the image shows. According to the court reading this morning Rehtaeh was raped. Period. There is nothing else it could be.

      • Marg September 22, 2014 at 5:42 pm

        I totally agree with you Glen. Anyone who thinks this did not contribute to her suicide is completely naive. Not only did Rehtaeh have to psychologically deal with the rape, she had to deal knowing there was a photo of her circulating around of the crime.

      • Chris Prud'homme September 22, 2014 at 6:39 pm

        Hi Glen, I just want to give my condolences for the loss of your beautiful Daughter. And I’d like to applaud you for speaking up on her behalf. No one knows a person better than their own parent. I feel your loss, and I fully understand your frustration with the system in general. Nothing seems to get done until it’s too late. 🙁 I’m in the same boat right now with my Son. Long story, so I’ll leave it at that, but it seems to me that the bad people in this world get all the breaks, and the victims and Family of victims get to deal with the aftermath. You’re on the right road here, keep doing what it takes to wake people up, and get yourself as close to happy again as a person can be after such a tragic event. Keep your chin up Buddy! 😉

      • Cheryl September 23, 2014 at 8:23 am

        This aggravates me when someone says something negative about how our children died. You know what pushed her over the edge and why you don’t have her here today. I also know what pushed my son and why he is not here today. I also lost my only child :'( Mine was not suicide but a loss to Prescription drugs. I know who to blame and their names. I too have had comments such as the one posted above yours. It is saddening and upsetting to say the least, we don’t have our children here. God forbid that this happens to anther parent, because when and if it does, then they will understand how we feel. Until then, they don’t have an opinion as to what or why things happened that involved our children’s deaths. Peace be with you and her mother. I understand xo <3

      • Colleen September 24, 2014 at 6:04 am

        I completely agree with you, Glen.

        I liken the poster who says that the sharing of the picture did not cause her death to the saying ‘Guns don’t kill people…’

        How does that end?

        ‘People kill people.’

        That picture was used like a any other weapon.

        My deepest condolences, Glen.

        • Kate September 24, 2014 at 10:02 am

          Thank you for your open discussion Glen despite the publication ban. We, as parents, grieve with you and support you. I hope that we have learned from this horrendous experience and will strive to make our communities better for all our children. It starts with us. Thank you, Colleen, for your words – I cannot agree more. My deepest condolences Glen.

      • Edith September 25, 2014 at 8:51 am

        Thank goodness you and Leah are getting some closure for your family. Still a terrible tragedy that never should have happened, but thats our messed up justice system for you. *hugs* to you and your family and wishing you all the best in the coming months as we all wait patiently for a verdict in the trial and sentencing.

      • LS Lorin Brimicombe - Royal Canadian Navy October 3, 2014 at 12:43 pm

        buyer’s remorse ? caught in the act, simply doing what she loved and was embarassed that more people would find out what kind of person she was turning out to be.

      • Camille October 5, 2014 at 8:14 pm

        Words can not describe the insult to the human spirit as to way you and your sweet daughter were dealt with such apathy. There is NOTHING in this world more important than our treatment to another human being. My 15y old daughter struggles with depression and suicidal thoughts and my prayer is that it is never carried out. I am SO grateful that your daughter had such a wonderful and close relationship with the most important man she would ever have in her life! It warms my heart to know that she had something my daughter will never have. You will have that relationship with her after this brief mortal experience and will be with her again! Those who have offended will be dealt with accordingly, just not as swiftly as we would like! I share your experience with my family so that my daughters are more prepared and my son more personally responsible not only for himself but for anyone he finds himself in the company of. I pray for comfort for your ever breaking hearts and know that WE do care! She was ALL of our daughters’!

    • Helen September 22, 2014 at 11:27 am

      How would you know of the anguish of someone doing this, if you have never been a victim keep your mouth shut

    • shawna heming September 22, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      I have to agree what he did was wrong but he didn’t do it to make her end her life. This isn’t fair just as it wasn’t fair that he sent the photo. Somewhere it has to stop. I know you are fightingfor your daughter but you have to forgive..

      • Andie September 23, 2014 at 3:13 pm

        Pure, unadulterated B.S. IT takes a lot of gall to tell a grieving parent he or she HAS to forgive. Rehtaeh’s parent’s aren’t obligated to forgive ANYONE, let alone someone who violated her and contributed to her death.

        Eff that.

      • Lisa September 23, 2014 at 3:14 pm

        Shawna Heming –

        You have no right to ‘should’ all over someone in any instance – particularly this one. Why on earth would you bring forgiveness up in this post? If you have the means to make this comment, then you should also have the means to outline in a procedural manner the steps to forgiveness in the context of this particular horror and tragedy.

        If you have the means to make this comment, you must also have the means to accurately describe and prescribe exactly what the perpetrators ‘should’ do and ‘should’ have done to somehow change the outcome of Rehtaeh’s suffering. Why don’t you write their parents and tell them how to parent, how they could make their boys understand the true nature of the crimes they committed?

        In certain Aboriginal cultures, the concept of forgiveness requires two specific elements:

        1) A sincere and genuine apology from the offender that is acknowledged and received by the recipient. (the recipient feels that it is true and genuine)
        2) The offender must provide absolute reassurance to the person they’ve offended and to their community that the offense will not happen again.

        Shawna, where do you see any of the above 2 items in Rehtaeh’s case? Shame on you and the inhumane expression of your ideals. As a survivor, people like you in the world make me feel fear. We already know that the world is an unsafe place, it is ideals such as yours that support that lack of safety.

        One final point – if you are a survivor, or have a child who is a survivor, then perhaps you can boldly and clearly outline the steps of forgiveness for us all. Based on the type of intellect and lack of humanity you display above, it is my assumption that you are completely unable to do so.

    • Sandi September 22, 2014 at 12:38 pm

      The photo is exactly what would push her to end her life. It would be hard enough to deal with what happened but to have that photo shared with your peers and not have anything done about it. That would crush any adult let alone a 16 or 17 year old girl. It’s hard enough to be a teenager. I honestly can’t believe you would suggest that Taylor. Glen, I am glad the boy plead guilty and agree with everything you said. “If only” is so hard to live with. It is so very sad. Bless you all.

    • Barb September 22, 2014 at 12:51 pm

      They may not have been in the room when she opted to attempt to take her life which ultimately led to her passing but their actions on the night of her rape sure as heck put her on the downward spiral that led her to that decision. It infuriates me that persons such as yourself can’t see that the rape was the catalyst of all of this. They raped her, they video taped raping her, they – and countless others – taunted her, the police shrugged their shoulders, the crown prosecutor at the time did nothing despite Rahteah’s having a videotape and yet you have the audacity to say he isn’t being fair? Give your head a shake Taylor I because you are living a fantasy life if you don’t think that all involved ended her life.

    • anonomous September 22, 2014 at 1:12 pm

      I agree with Taylor, that it really is not fair to say he ended her life by sharing a photo. This all should have been dealt with right away. If she was taken away after this incident by family to start a new life away from all this horror, she also may be with us today.

      • akike September 22, 2014 at 2:18 pm

        Y the hel should her family have to move her to start a new life becase she got raped. You probably have a sick rapist mindset ur self u sick f***

      • Jeanette September 22, 2014 at 2:39 pm

        So people commit crimes – and make no mistake, crimes were committed: one of the perpetrators pleaded guilty this very morning- and the victim and his/her family should move away because that will fix it? It’s called victim-blaming and you just committed a whopper. Guess that’s why you’re “anonomous” [sic].

      • PB September 22, 2014 at 4:35 pm

        Are you NUTS anonomous????!!!! (Correctly spelled anonymous!!) WHY should her family have her moved “away after this incident to start a new life away from all this horror”. The young men involved committed a crime!!!!! If someone was responsible for YOUR child’s death would YOU just walk away without seeking justice?? He ended her life by sharing the photo. Had it never gone any further than his phone, and been deleted, she would still be very much alive and not tortured to death by the photo!!!!

      • Ed September 22, 2014 at 6:35 pm

        Whoever you are anonymous, you need to just shut the fuck up as well as Taylor! You are both idiots!

      • Mary Jane September 22, 2014 at 7:21 pm

        Her parents should have moved her entire family and swept it under the rug??? Is that what you are saying?? Do you realize what you are saying??? MY GOD!!! You are blaming her parents for her death while saying a rape and photo weren’t contributors…People like you are immoral and disgusting. I pray you have no children…for that matter, sisters or nieces…or any girlfriends…and truly with all of my heart pray you are not a woman…you simply can’t be. By saying anything negative about this girl you are a huge part of the problem, empathy for these young men is unforgiveable.

      • Vicki September 22, 2014 at 8:09 pm

        Ok I see that people are getting upset here and rightly so, a young girl took her life as the result of rape and bullies, I don’t care what her state of mind was before this happened, I don’t believe that innocent people should have to relocate, because a crime was committed and they were being haunted and taunted by it, since when do we allow bullies to win! That just gives them more power to feed on. I laugh at your relocate remark, ask Amanda Todd’s parents about relocation and how that prevents suicide! Don’t force feed the “society brings them up like that” on me. I have a 19 year old nephew, there is not one bone in his body that disrespects women on that level, why? Because he was brought up that No means No and women are not objects they are people, that its not cool or hip to do this kind of stuff. that’s a cop out for societies wrong doing these days and a poor cop out at that! If my daughters boyfriends behaved in this manner they would not be Their boyfriend long! EDUCATION starts at home. I know tons of young people who are “subject” to MTV and women being sexually exploited in the media, but they don’t do stuff like this! I think the High School, and those who thought it was a “good idea” to tape and take pics of a young girl being sexually assaulted need a reality check and perhaps it is them that need to relocate to like a prison perhaps or maybe they need to be sentenced as adults, if they were grown up enough to do this, they sure as heck are grown up enough to face the real penalty. I could go on and on but the bottom line is this, Rehtaeh was depressed and she was being harassed, to the point where she felt like there was no other way out. Like no one cared, my daughter suffers from depression, she is 16 and I can tell you something right now, if this happened to her, and she was driven to this drastic measure, the cause would be the years of trying to fight the Mental Health System, the med changes often and then bam, this would be the final push in an already troubled mind, these kids knew that! They knew it was wrong and if they didn’t, then WOW they were failed at home on some level I just can’t comprehend! its time for all these pretty boys and girls to stop hiding behind parents that are trying to compensate for never being there or never feeling adequate, making excuses for everything and chalking it up to just some teenage antics. This is tragic and it is time we started taking things like this serious, especially in schools…my daughter is slightly cyber bullied, and I gotta tell you, the parents of the girl that is doing it is no better!! They are aware, I am aware, and that means beware! It is sad that our so called “society” brings us to this infuriating situation, and I see no relief in the near future. What they did is inexcusable and now I bet they are wishing they had never done it, thing is they get to go home someday no matter how damaged, their parents and loved ones get to see their face and hear their voice, but this poor girl is gone forever! Don’t blame this on anyone other than those adults who new and the upbringing of these kids! Its disgusting and its not anything to be made light of. She ran home in distraught and she did something that was obviously her only view of escaping this tragedy. I am an adult and I can’t imagine this let alone a young teenager in a group of kids that need to be accepted so badly they will go to any measure just to be the cool one. Perhaps we as parents should investigate our children’s phones and laptops now and then, just to see what they are up to, I do it all the time! no privilege(cause its a privilege not a right ) if there is no respect! PERIOD a human being is just that another human being and is to be treated as such, this is not a third world country we live in, we live in a vast multicultural Canada, who is supposed to be civilized and peaceful…what is peaceful about this act and what it led to?

      • Rose September 23, 2014 at 8:30 am

        Unbelievable!!! You say it’s up to the victim and their family to deal with this!! That they should have moved away and started a new life?? You are just as pathetic as Taylor and the boys that have done this to Reteha ! A bully is a bully! A rapist is a rapist weather it’s emotional physical sexual or mental! Abuse is abuse and it is not the victims fault and it is sure as heck not the families fault! Even if there were other issues taking place what teenager and their family don’t have anger issues. And Taylor to even suggest that because her parents had issues that she or her family are to blame for her taking her life!!!! Pathetic !! Rip Rehtaeh sweet angel and god bless her parents for standing up to the school system, justice system, police to get justice and answers. And sharing the journey with others .

      • Lisa September 23, 2014 at 3:20 pm

        You display no intellect or opinion when you choose to be anonymous. On the Internet we call you Troll.

        You are a useless troll with no affect or impact whatsoever. There is no power in what you are doing – only shame and a reflection of your inability to be a human being.

      • j September 24, 2014 at 6:34 pm

        Anon. Are you suggesting moving as a solution for all crime victims? Or is this special solution just for the crime of rape? Do I need to start packing because I was robbed?

      • Cadence September 26, 2014 at 8:55 pm

        In the age of social media, you can not move away to escape any horrors that you are going through. And why should they be forced to relocate because of a situation that some stupid excuse for a human decided to put her through. By the time someone reaches the age of 12 they should know that sharing pictures of underage people is a crime. To say that the photo did not lead to her death, is just further proof that society chooses to be on the side of the criminals and continue to victimize a girl who is no longer here to defend herself. Yes there could have been underlying mental health issues that contributed to her death, but by putting this young woman through the hell that they did, and by sharing the photo, these people have made it so that she had no place to go. I was surprised that the police did not do more to stop this from reaching the point that it did. But as for the staff at Cole Harbour High not doing anything about it is right in line with that schools administrative policies. I can speak from experience with how that school allows bullying, by punishing the victims. To those who disagree read the article again. This poor family went to officials to deal with the situation, the people they went to for help turned their backs on them. This photo was not the cause of death, but, the events of that night, the photo in question, and the way people treated her afterwards were the biggest contributors of her death. She may not be here no more to defend herself, but at least she has her family and community fighting for her now. Maybe if the community fought for when all this happened she could have been given access to resources, that could have possibly saved her life. Glen, what you and your family is doing will bring the necessary changes in the system and correct the flaws. I hope that in time you all will find peace, but stay strong. You are now your daughters voice, keep her memory and story alive so that others can learn and hopefully this will not happen to another family.

      • Kevin October 6, 2014 at 3:32 am

        You appear to suggesting that ALL should run and hide and cower from the might of the rapist . . . . . . wow! It is fifty years since I was the age of these young people and we have not come a long way, maybe these acts are slightly less frequent but they seem to be getting a whole lot nastier

    • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 1:40 pm

      I must say I agree with you. If people actually understood depression and suicide they would know that people don’t do it for a ‘reason’. By saying that you basically say that if things in your life are great then you have no ‘reason’ to commit suicide. It is not a black and white choice as such. Depression and psychological issues are much deeper than that. You could easily say that if she did not have psychological issues she would have been able to deal with this in a different manner other than taking her life, but then you’re blaming her and that is not fair either. He is to blame for his actions, they were illegal , they caused her pain and torment, however depression doesn’t come from someone else actions, it comes from a chemical imbalance causing severe emotional imbalance and turmoil. That is what killed her. To put all the blame on these boys is taking away the real problem. The real problem is that they thought it was ok, that we live in a society where this is ok. That is the problem. The problem is the officials did nothing about is, cause again it is looked at as ok. These boys were brought up in a society where we obviously do not condemn this behavior and then expect them to behave different. The problem is that mental health issues in the province are highly not attended to and to often disregarded. Leaving many people who need help not getting it. Society failed her, our system failed her, that is the real issue that needs addressing.

      • tmocnne September 22, 2014 at 1:43 pm

        And btw, before you judge that I have no idea; I am female. Not the age of the peers, but an adult, with children, a health professional( who deals with depression on a daily basis) and have been a victim of sexual assault.

        • River October 2, 2014 at 6:19 am

          The “depression as chemical imbalance” lie came right out of the marketing department of pharmaceutical companies. There is no scientific basis for that fallacy.

          Please get some education and do not besmirch the nursing profession further. Start by reading Anatomy of an Illness.

          In my opinion these young men killed her. It’s as clear as day. They would stalk and harass and abuse her until she suicided. They acted with a mob mentality, a Kristalnacht of a child’s soul.

      • Ed September 22, 2014 at 6:42 pm

        Depression or not. I think any individual, put in such a position could experience the same outcome.

      • Mary Jane September 22, 2014 at 7:31 pm

        So in your professional opinion, even if this hadn’t happened to her she would have still committed suicide? In your professional opinion severe depression(especially in a teenager) isn’t triggered by traumatic and severely stressful life altering events? Hmmm that’s interesting. By health care professional do you mean a doctor or receptionist to one? Children cant deal with this type of thing…school is their world, where all of their friends are..where they should feel safe. All of that gone from her life then add photos and shame??? Teenagers don’t see 10 years down the line…they see tomorrow.

        • tmocnne October 1, 2014 at 1:02 pm

          I mean a MD yes and I majored in psychology in my undergraduate year. I cannot say if she still would have committed suicide. NOBODY can say that. You cannot predict the future and you cannot live life with ‘what ifs”. Of course there is 2 types of ‘depression’ one could argue. The sort of depression that results from a traumatic event or a loss. It gets better when the loss that has been experienced is made up in some way. It is like an exaggerated form of grief. People get better with time. Psychotherapy is helpful in providing support and guidance. I cannot comment if there was any type of treatment given in this case as I do not know. Then there is major depression, not triggered by an event and responds 9 typically) to pharmacotherapy and psychotherapy. Once again, I cannot comment on what her mental situation was, I just read that she had some mental health issues beforehand. Which would leave me to believe that she leaned toward the second type.
          If however this was not the case and that it was caused by a traumatic event, then yes this even did cause he negative stimuli in her life. However how one reacts to this stimuli is within their power. We can react negatively or positively. We can be victimized or we can rise on top. Many of us have been a ‘victim’ ( and I use that word lightly cause I feel it is an enabling term) of abuse, sexual assault, abandonment and much more. Some however triumph, while others don’t. Some chose to move on, while others don’t. Until you stop blaming others for how you react to a stimuli in your life, until you decide that you will not be a victim of your past circumstances and until you realize that only you can make things right in your life; you will continue to live negatively and unhappily. One could say in a depressive state. It is a hard thing to swallow. Cause many would rather go around blaming others for our misfortune, it is much easier then accepting responsibility for it and being in charge of changing it. Now, it is not everyone that can do that. Also at a very young age, adolescents do not have this abstract way of thinking. They also do not have the ability to always see consequences to their actions or that death is finale. They often don’t ant to die, but want a way out and can’t find it. That is where parents come into play, professionals, school officials ect. Some of these areas seem to have fallen short in this case. There are many many factors that come into play in this case, the photo being one of them yes. However to state that this is the sole thing that ended her life, takes responsibility away from any other factor, including her own choices. It takes away the ability to no longer be a victim. I chose to no longer be a victim and in resulted in saving my life. This is why I believe this.

      • Aya September 23, 2014 at 8:24 pm

        tmocnne, you would know that as a health professional that research is constantly changing. Depression was believed to be linked with an imbalance in serotonin. Rigorous studies have actually shown no association between serotonin and depression and this body of evidence is greater than the evidence supporting chemical imbalance to depression. Most of the studies that proved an association were done by pharmaceutics companies.

        What does this mean?

        Depression is more than a chemical imbalance alone.
        This is also likely why medication doesn’t have high rates of treating depression; especially when you attack it only from a chemical angle and forget about the person’s problems; that’s not holistic care. That’s why generally, we’ve had poor success as a whole with treating mental health.
        Last Rehtaeh had no signs of depression prior, everyday people can become depressed by life events and not as they’re born with chemical imbalances.

        • tmocnne October 1, 2014 at 1:04 pm

          Very true. Sorry I replied to the above without having read your comment. However I do comment on what you have mentioned and questioned if she had previous history of such.

    • Lisa September 22, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      I normally never, ever comment on website posts, but today, I am completely compelled to respond.

      Taylor – I do not understand why you would take the time and effort to share your very differing opinions as a response to Rehtaeh’s story and experiences. How do you find the means to express clearly in writing an opinion that you know is hurtful and is actually factually uninformed? I am not going to specifically address your explicit and inflammatory comments above, what I wish to address is the lack of basic humanity you demonstrate in the act of expressing your views. Your ability and lack of complete concern to respond sensitively and with empathy as a fellow human being, is explicitly indicative and a direct reflection of who you are as a person in this world.

      You have left the mark of your opinion in a most inappropriate fashion, on a day that is like no other for Glen and his family. You have also left a distinct mark digitally that directly reflects poorly on your ability to be a human being. I hope you can find it in yourself to reflect on your behavior today and how your words can have an impact on others that you cannot even imagine. You also need to reflect on the reasons why you chose to express yourself, knowing full well that it would be hurtful and upsetting to Rehtaeh’s family.

      As a survivor of multiple traumas, I understand what I am reading in this case. It is obvious that you do not. What is most egregious is that you put your needs first to comment in this fashion, to Rehtaeh’s Father, on what is an extraordinarily difficult day. Take the time to inform yourself of the facts of this case and please, take the time to find kindness in your heart and present yourself with gentle humanity. I never cease to be shocked and frightened by the basic lack of humanity in people all around us. You are one of them. Whether you realize it or not, care or not – your words, and your means to express them are a complete personification of rape culture. In the moment you expressed this – you ARE rape culture. As a survivor, I will clearly state that you are also part of the many problems that we experience.

      I sincerely hope that you never, ever have to understand the context of what Glen’s family has experienced and other survivor’s face. It is an impossible world out there; to navigate the legal system and heal from sexual assault. Comments like yours above and the lack of humanity that you demonstrated are a perfect example of what we face just to survive and thrive.

      Glen – Thinking of you all and Rehtaeh today. Sending you much love and light on this very difficult day.

    • PB September 22, 2014 at 4:44 pm

      Taylor I …. Kharma is a bitch. I hope your child never suffers a similar fate!

    • Marg September 22, 2014 at 5:48 pm

      Taylor I, you my darling are extremely naive to think a photo circulating of the rape did not contribute to Rehtaeh’s decision to end her life.

    • KS September 22, 2014 at 5:51 pm

      The photo definitely played a huge role in ending Rehtaeh’s life. She probably could have managed to cope with the rape but every time she tried to start over, that damn photo would come back. The other “mitigating” factors came AFTER that. Had these boys admitted their guilt at the time, Rehtaeh would probably still be here.

      Anonymous – her parents did try to deal with it right away – it was the police, the school, our justice system that dropped the ball. Also, you believe she should have moved away? Seriously?? The boys have to be accountable for what they did and they ended her life, along with every other sick jerk that distributed her picture and taunted her.

    • Diane September 22, 2014 at 5:55 pm

      Of course he contributed a major part in her death, it was because of him and the other boy that she had problems..if he had apologized to Rehtaeh shortly afterwards he may have helped her heal but he chose not to…This family has gone through hell and back and they will never feel justified because they lost their daughter and society turned their back on her…my heart goes out to Rehtaehs family…

    • belinda September 22, 2014 at 5:57 pm

      unless u were raped/violated…..keep quiet. R.I.P. Little angel.

    • Colleen September 22, 2014 at 6:29 pm

      until you have been raped literally or by film you will never know …how can you say anything were you in her mind ??? did you know her better than her own family ??? i think not ……..sad how there is always 1 person who still dont get it !!!!! SAD I SAID !!!!! there is always 1 thing that would push someone over the edge ….this obviously was hers.

      • LS Lorin Brimicombe - Royal Canadian Navy October 3, 2014 at 12:38 pm

        ** Don’t forget that XXXXXXX and XXXXXXX has a little bit to do with things **

    • TheRealThunderChild September 23, 2014 at 3:02 am

      Sorry, but how dare you actually make those assertions? Has it not occurred to you that this young lady may well have been a sensertive, yet perfectly stable person….that what happened and her experiences subsequent to that caused the issues you mentioned?
      And guess what? Even if she did have pre existing “issues”….she was ALIVE AND LIVING PERFECTLY WELL until what happened , happened. It’s incumbent on ALL of us not to deliberately hurt and humiliate other human beings, not withstanding any “issues” they “may” have( ugh ugh ugh) lest we cause a cascade that leads to potentially catastrophic consequences.
      Your statement, sir, is little more that “how was he to know she couldn’t take a joke?”
      It DOESN’T MATTER. The guilt of an act, and it’s consequences, lies purely with the perpetrator, and anything else is just victim blaming.
      Ask any prosecutor.

      *and how unusual , to say of a wounded female, “it wasn’t HIS fault , SHE already had issues”

    • Julie September 23, 2014 at 7:24 am

      Hello what are you thinking??? How can u say that?? Inaccurate?? This is how her father feels and he has every right to express his feeling. You obviously have never had a situation that close to home affect you and therefore your inaccurate statement is nothing but ignorant and unfeeling.opinions like yours is the real problem!!

    • Janice September 23, 2014 at 9:32 am

      This is a really insensitive comment. You do know the person writing this is a grieving father, right? This is an extreme situation and it deserves extreme sensitivity. Don’t be a jerk.

    • fourfeathers September 23, 2014 at 10:55 am


    • Phillip Greene September 27, 2014 at 7:47 pm

      You ignorant piece of garbage, how can you type those words with any sense of decency. The picture that was shared by these scumbags was the catalyst the lead to her death. What is wrong with you, everyone has an opinion but you should shut the fuck up!!!!!

      • LS Lorin Brimicombe - Royal Canadian Navy October 3, 2014 at 12:40 pm

        and if you were misinformed, wouldn’t that blow your comments out of the water ? Suppose, for a moment, that most of this reported story is not quite true. I understand your passion for this subject, but things aren’t always as they are told.

    • Shane B October 1, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      @Tyler I: Look I’m sorry but that’s excusing the actions. It’s like saying that if you turn on a tap to fill your bath and it overflows it’s not the fault of the open tap. Everyone knows that bullying causes massive emotional and psychological effects. Raping a child and then passing that around using male violence (sharing the photos at every school she went to) is as bad as it gets. A simple search on google will tell you quickly the rates of bullying and effects on suicide and other things.

      I beg you to get more educated and stop blaming the victim for her own death. The sooner we acknowledge rape as violence and get onboard with stopping female violence the better society we are going to be. Translation Tyler: There’s no justice until we have tougher laws, more education to youth, and a zero-tolerance for everyone acting in this manner. It’s just that simple

    • christina October 3, 2014 at 11:29 am

      I am a psychiatric social worker with thirty years of experience with adolescents with history of trauma and self-harm behaviors. I am here to tell you that even people without the psychological baggage you suggest played a role will commit suicide. Very successful people commit suicide. Humiliation, especially for kids, is an extreme stressor.
      I have to agree with her father. If the photo had not been disseminated, what followed afterward would have been entirely different.

    • Correllio October 3, 2014 at 1:31 pm

      @Taylor I You don’t think it’s fair?

      Oh my Lord, Glen I don’t know how you stay calm reading such morally vacuous drivel.

      So @Taylor 1, was it fair that when Rehtaeh was drunk that instead of being looked after by her friends, instead of being taken home safely, she was draped over a window and raped?

      Do you think it was fair @Taylor 1, for that low life to stand there and take pictures of her – without her permission even – while his ‘friends’ raped her much less stand there like some pervert watching a violent porn show?

      Do you think it’s fair fair @Taylor 1 that he stood there and LET A GIRL WHO IS INCAPACITATED AND CAN’T SPEAK FOR HERSELF MUCH LESS DEFEND HERSELF BE RAPED?

      Do you think it’s fair @Taylor 1 that he did not once say anything or even try to help?

      Do you think it’s fair someone should not help a girl being raped but instead take pictures @Taylor 1?

      Is that what you would do @Taylor 1, because that’s fair in your sick twisted demented world?

      “Oh she’s drunk, line up boys”, is that what you would do @Taylor 1, because that’s fair?

      The pigs didn’t even care – nope not even the pig who took those photos – that she was sick enough to vomit. They wouldn’t have even cared if she had choked on her vomit or dehydrated dangerously from vomiting. Is that fair @Taylor 1?

      Do you think it fair @Taylor 1 that hwhile she was still incapacitated, being raped, vomting, with an animal like that inside her giving the thumbs up like he’s just friggin won a lottery, he sent her image to others WITHOUT HER PERMISSION, people she knew or knew her, everyone, and then plaster it over the internet where anyone, even a person like me from Australia can see it – AND NEVER UNSEE IT?

      Do you think it fair @Taylor 1 then he and his pig friends then bragged about it. bragged and bragged to all and sundry, to people she knew or would come across every day?

      Do you think it’s fair @Taylor 1 that she had to endure taunting and ridicule. Do you think it’s fair she could never again walk free with any modicum of privacy or trust because some screwed up low life has ensured that she could never ever get past what happened to her, because those images, those words, those whispers, those taunts can never be erased, unsaid, undone but continue to swirl around – around the world even – for the rest of her life, so that any and every kind of other lowlife out there, anywhere in the world for any reason at any unexpected moment could constantly remind her of it?

      Lowlife like you @Taylor 1.

      I tell you what’s fair @Taylor 1, you and those morons who agree with you here. It’s totally fair for others to call you moral retards, and enablers.

      It’s precisely despicable people like you who enable the pigs who raped Retaeh and the pig who took those photos instead of protecting and defending her. It’s people like you @Taylor 1 who give them permission to do such things and let them think they can get away with it and they do get away with it because whatever the outcome, even this small small win for justice, people like you will cry, enough enought, it’s not fair! Low life like you will stand in the way of pigs like this ever taking responsibility for the consequences of their despicable actions. And should someone point the finger at those responsible, there will be a @Taylor 1 crying that’s not fair.

      Low life like you are enablers for criminals, deniers of justice, drivers for suicide.

      No doubt in your small little mind this is all about you, because you fear one day someone might make you responsible for every despicable thing you’ve ever done, because you and those here who agree with you are such moral cowards that instead of owning up to your failings and taking responsibillity and making resituttion, you just want to chuch a tanty and cry ‘it’s not fair’. And you’d rather drive another nail in Glen’s heart by crying ‘not fair’ to assuage your own shame and cover ove ryour own cowardice, instead of offerig any realy support for him to get justice for his daughter and save other women from the low life who abused her.

      You and those like you disgust me.

    • jcaswell October 4, 2014 at 8:43 pm

      Taylor I, you are looking for a reason to blame the victim. Sadly this happens in many rape cases. We need more men like her father to be advocates for women/girls in this situation. There is a lot of attention to the pornography aspect of this incident but the girl was raped. That alone is difficult. Having to relive it over and over because of a photo and bullies is an egregious crime.

  51. Catherine September 22, 2014 at 9:42 am

    I have been following Rehtaeh’s story from the beginning. I cannot believe people aren’t outraged about her death and the way you and her Mother have been treated/mistreated for so long. These boys are immoral and disgusting. The scary part is is there’s far too many out there just like them. Their parents only option is to defend them because anything near to the truth reflects back on them and their inadequacies as parents. I have a 16 year old son and because of Rehtaeh’s story we have candid discussions about sexual consent, gang rape, videotaping, nudes, friendship & caring, respect for girls, standing up for those who find themselves in situations where they can’t. Parents really and truly do not know what their kids are doing, they say they do but they don’t Many boys have secret files full of nude pictures on their phones, some with 100+ pics; parents aren’t aware. The collective “we” have chosen to ignore the world our kids live in, by that I mean the world THEY live in. There is NO discussion among parents, teachers, community advocates & partners, about any of Key issues surrounding teens….and so the status quo remains. Quite frankly, I’m scared.

Comments are closed.