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Victim Impact Statement

Today the first of two males charged in Rehtaeh’s case will be sentenced. I’m not expecting much – parole for a couple months or a suspended sentence. He’ll be sentenced as a young offender so there isn’t a lot of options.

I have no idea what to expect this morning. We have a lot of support and for that we are grateful.

This is my victim impact statement. I’m still not sure if I’ll read it out loud or just enter it into the court record.

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Glen Canning

September 22, 2014
Victim Impact Statement
Case File: 130794
Relationship to Victim Rehtaeh Parsons: Father

It would be impossible for me to sum up the impact this crime has had on my life and the life of my daughter, Rehtaeh. My life has been forever changed, and her life ended.

Every morning I wake up with the realization she is gone. I will never hear her voice again. She will never call me, spend the day with me, or watch a movie we both looked forward to seeing together.

I won’t see her graduate from university and enter a career she dreamed of since she was a child. Rae was my only child. I will never walk my daughter down the aisle at her wedding. I will never be a grandfather and enjoy the laughter of a grandchild.

The hole you left in my life is as big as the hole you left in hers. You took away her friends, her innocence, her dreams, her youth, and with the click of a camera you took away her will to live.

I had to watch my promising, intelligent, and full of life child turn into an empty ghost. Her dreams turned to ashes, her laughter turned to anger and cries. This is not the way this had to end.

It’s hard knowing that Rehtaeh, being the kind of person she was, would have forgiven you if you had only said you were sorry. When she was alive to hear it – you could have made a difference, yet you remained silent even when you knew her life had turned into a nightmare by your actions. You did nothing when it would have mattered.

I fight everyday not to turn into a dark empty shell. I’m not able to work. Hobbies I had that were important to me are all long forgotten and sit on shelves in the basement. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I often fear being alone.

My sense of justice has been shattered and replaced with doubt, cynicism, and a lack of faith. Rehtaeh is not here today to tell you what your actions did to her, but based on what I saw, you damaged her beyond repair.

Every time I think of my daughter Rehtaeh, I think of you and how what you did contributed to the end of her. I will live like this for the rest of my life.

Glen Canning

By | 2016-10-21T21:43:11+00:00 November 13th, 2014|Categories: Rehtaeh Parsons|Tags: , , , , |9 Comments

9 Comments

  1. Amy November 20, 2014 at 12:41 am

    Rehtaeh’s story hurts so, so much. It is hard to read. Hard to think about. I’m a stranger and I feel that way. I can’t imagine your pain. I read every story about her that I see – whether they mention her name or not – out of respect for her and for you and her mother. Also so that the media knows there is interest in her story and they keep writing about her. I wish I could make up for the people who didn’t listen and who looked away and refused to help her when she was alive.

    You seem like such a good dad, so empathetic and you write of her so movingly. I think that by writing as much as you have and being as vocal as you have, you have made a difference. You shone a light and you demonstrated what a civilized man looks and sounds like. Thank-you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  2. Linda Craig November 15, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    I am so sorry for the loss of this young person and for your grief. It is beyond sad.

    • Glen Canning November 19, 2014 at 9:08 am

      Thanks you Linda.

  3. Marie-Louise Doyle November 14, 2014 at 10:40 am

    Love you Glennie – xxoo Marie

    • Glen Canning November 19, 2014 at 9:08 am

      Love you too Marie. xoxo

  4. Nicolas Pepin November 14, 2014 at 3:00 am

    I cannot express how deeply your words affect me everytime I read them. Our daughters are quite similar I think, even look a bit a like. Except that I am blessed to still see mine every day. I can tell you that through your words, your daughter has made fathers like me not only more aware of the dangers facing our girls, but also more aware of the importance of spending every moment we can with them. Your daughter’s gift to us has been to create thousands upon thousands of loving moments that would otherwise never have happened. I only wish we could somehow harness that beautiful force and use it to alter time and space to make it possible for the you and your daughter to share in that joy with us. In your despair, please never forget that others are thinking of you constantly. Take care, Nicolas Pepin

  5. Carmen November 14, 2014 at 1:26 am

    I am sorry that you have to keep going through this. I heard your interview with the CBC on The Current – been following this from Finland.

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