January 15, 2015
Victim Impact Statement
Case File: 130794
Relationship to Victim Rehtaeh Anne Parsons: Father
This victim impact statement is written on behalf of Rehtaeh Parsons. As her father, these are the words I believe she would say if she were here today to say them.
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XXXX – when I was in that home with you, I became vulnerable and you took advantage of that. You did something to me that was so awful it will never be undone.
The week this happened I lost everything. I lost the community I grew up in, the friends I had all my life, the familiar places I grew to know and cherish. I had to leave my loving home, I lost all the work I had so proudly done in school, I lost my dreams, my hopes, my dignity, and had the very essence of who I was taken from me – by you.
I’m asked to sum up the the psychological and emotional impact this has had on me – my attitudes, feeling, and emotions; my behaviour; my relationship with my family and friends; the counselling I had to take. Where would I even start?
I spent almost a year and a half looking into the hurt faces of my mother and father only to see them look back at me as if I was someone they didn’t even know. You stole them from me. You stole the life I was supposed to share with my little sisters. You stole almost every friend I had.
I had to see the look on my fathers face as he came into my bedroom to a blood covered daughter because once again I just wanted to die. My arms ended up covered in scars on top of scars. I continuously cut myself to let the pain out.
I turned to drugs and alcohol so I could forget what you did to my life. I was constantly angry. Constantly on guard.
I spent five weeks in the hospital because I wanted to die. My will to live was drained from me every time I tried to pick myself up. Every new school, every new friend, every time …. what you did was right there. I became so afraid of trying to get better and failing that eventually I didn’t even want to try anymore.
In the end I wrongly felt I had become a burden to those who loved me and cared for me.
Because of your actions and what followed, I am not here at all.