Last night the hashtag #helplily appeared on my feed. A 14 year old girl’s family tried to get her admitted to the IWK Children’s Hospital in Halifax for mental health related issues. According to a family friend she was refused entry.

Halifax police spokesman Const. Pierre Bourdages says she was “acting in a violent manner” and assaulted officers. Bourdages says the responding officers thought she might be a danger to herself so she was re-arrested under the Involuntary Psychiatric Treatment Act around 10 p.m. and taken back to the IWK for reassessment.

As of now the family friend says Lily and her mother are still at the IWK, waiting for that assessment.

Yes, the bigger issue remains. Unless you’ve been through something like this with a child it’s really hard to imagine what her family is going through. I do know taking her there would have been a very hard decision to make. At the point you do you’re literally drowning in grief and anguish.

I made a couple posts on Facebook last night. These are some of the replies:

[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]She is my sister. She was brought in twice in 24 hours and they did nothing. They told my mother to take her home and “wait it out”[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]My friend went through this with her daughter…they (Iwk) told her to take her to a group home as there is nothing they can do for her.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]That happened to me too. I self harmed really really bad and I went to iwk when I was 15 and I wanted to commit suicide. They turned me away. They said “You don’t fit the criteria to be admitted” …. They turned me away. So I went to QE2 they also denied me

They said call the crises help line.[/su_quote]

[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]We took my brother to iwk several times for mental health and he was sent “home” time and time again….its very sad to see a child fall through the cracks.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]That is a sad state of affair, she is looking for help and they take her away in a cop car to jail ( holding cell ).[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]This is a very sad situation. No one should be turned away when asking for help. All of these campaigns and events supporting mental health and a poor 14 year old girl is denied the help she obviously needs. Very sick feeling reading this …[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]If this is the response to youth looking for help, they are in deep trouble in NS. Mental health services should be available at all times of crisis.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]Once again they dropped the ball big time, what do they need, hire more staff and educate volunteers!!! My God, its not rocket science !![/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]I am a child and youth care worker. Unfortunately this is very real more then we like to admit .. My heart breaks for her.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]Thanks for posting this Glen, I went through the same stuff back home which you can read in the post when I shared.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]Now maybe people will understand why I hate taking my son to the iwk. We have had to take him twice since he was born and each time they have made my wife and I out to be terrible parents. This just shows that they don’t want to help anyone that goes in if they can turn them away.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]Unless she threatens to kill herself or someone else….they are shown the door, perhaps a dr appt for two weeks later, if the child is still alive then.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]It’s happening every where I am one of those people that had to threaten to jump in front of a car if they didn’t help me. Then I look like the asshole. Oh and when they say they are full usually they aren’t. She has my full support.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]I know this child and it’s upsetting that it has come to this point.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]From what I understand on Twitter, the cops brought her to the IWK to get her help and she was turned away. She couldn’t go home so they had no choice but to bring her in.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]A young person 14 suffering mental illness there is never anything peaceful that can lead to this , there is always anger, rage, almost demonic like personality that goes on until someone the kid , the parents or the police realize that the kid needs help and then that is when those who love her are desperate for their safety as well as the child they loves safety . Doesn’t make her a bad girl , her circumstances(mental health and or what ever else could be going on)! have made her life difficult and someone who loves her does not know what else to do! I have had advise in my past that said don’t take a enraged child to the iwk, social services or the police because they will get lost in the system so then what are families to do ![/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]This is one of the reasons why I want to work for the iwk mental health unit. I want to give the kindness I received when I had to go there as a sick child. Obviously things have changed and I’m someone who has the education and heart to make a difference. Screw the low economy we need people with heart and a brain moving back to Nova Scotia![/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]The @IWK mental health unit is known to turn kids away who need the help. Then they book an appointment for a counsellor for months away. The mental health system fails these kids and their families. They refuse to help and then they throw you to the wolves without any help or resources.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]As a past IWK outpatient, I had to wait almost a year to get in the system. I got a referral when I was 14, and didn’t get in until 15. During that wait time I was in the emergency a few times begging to be admitted because I was tired of suffering and they REFUSED me. Same with capital health as an adult now, but luckily found therapy at the gym. Its ridiculous. I prey this girl gets the help she deserves, its wrong she is in a cell but I wouldn’t blame police because its our health care system that failed her.[/su_quote]
[su_quote cite=”Facebook User”]Lily is my younger sister. She was adopted when she was a little over a year and since then our family has done everything in their power to make her life happy and healthy. Now my parents have exhausted all their resources and something is going on in Lily’s head that she cannot explain but she knows she wants help. So now they will fight for her and I hope and pray something finally gives.[/su_quote]

I’m having a hard time keeping up with the comments on the post. At the moment (17:09 08 June 2015 there are 512 of them. It’s an issue that strikes at the heart.

I have heard she is now in the IWK getting, hopefully, the help she needs.

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