[su_divider top=”no” divider_color=”#006699″] Rape culture isn’t something that affects only rape victims. Rape culture affects us all – families, co-workers, communities, our police forces, hospitals, schools, the military, prisons, our institutions, etc. Rape Culture is so engrained in our sub-conscious we may often not even notice it in ourselves let alone others.

I recently bought the newly released book Asking for It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture–and What We Can Do about It (Amazon link) by Kate Harding.

[su_note note_color=”#C0C0C0″ text_color=”#000000″]Every seven minutes, someone in America commits a rape. And whether that’s a football star, beloved celebrity, elected official, member of the clergy, or just an average Joe (or Joanna), there’s probably a community eager to make excuses for that person.

In Asking for It, Kate Harding combines in-depth research with an in-your-face voice to make the case that twenty-first-century America supports rapists more effectively than it supports victims. Drawing on real-world examples of what feminists call “rape culture”—from politicos’ revealing gaffes to institutional failures in higher education and the military—Harding offers ideas and suggestions for how we, as a society, can take sexual violence much more seriously without compromising the rights of the accused.[/su_note]

18sep15_askingI don’t usually review books or make recommendations but I think that’s going change. This is a good book. A powerful book. Harding doesn’t hold back as she exposes rape myths, safety tips, the bystander mentality, the politics of rape, false accusation issues, the police, courts, the new misogyny, MRAs, and ends with a few reasons to be hopeful.

One of the more common myths is the myth “She asked for it.” In response Harding says, “It’s literally impossible to ask for rape. Rape, by definition, is sex you did not ask for. So either you mean that a woman who dresses a certain way, or flirts, or otherwise expresses her sexuality on her own terms somehow deserves to be raped — which would make you a monster — or you are wrong, and she was not asking for it.”

Buy the book. You’ll be glad you did and as you can see she’s also a pug fan! That’s her pug on the left, Rehtaeh’s pug Ozzy is on the right.